Funeral Planning
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How to Plan the Funeral
- PLANNING THE LITURGY FOR YOUR LOVED ONE
ST.BONIFACE PARISH WOULD LIKE TO EXTEND OUR SINCERE CONDOLENCES FOR THE LOSS OF YOUR LOVED ONE. BE ASSURED OF OUR PRAYERS.
BELOW IS AN EXPLANATION OF HOW TO CHOOSE READINGS AND MUSIC FOR THE FUNERAL MASS. PLEASE MAKE ALL OF YOUR CHOICES FOR READINGS AND MUSIC ON THE ATTACHED FORM AND PRESS THE SUBMIT BUTTON AT THE BOTTOM OF THIS PAGE.
The funeral liturgy at the funeral home has a different structure please contact the priest for clarification.
THE READINGS FROM SCRIPTURE:
If you wish, you can choose the Scripture readings for the Mass, and also choose someone to read them; or Father Ron will choose the Readings, and arrange for a reader. These are found below this letter.
You choose:
1 Reading from the Old Testament. These have the number ‘789’ on the document.
1 Reading from the New Testament. These have the number ‘790’ on the document.
You may wish to only have one reading either from the old or the New Testament and that is sufficient. Just mark it on the document
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For the Gospel, these are on the document with the number ‘793’.
Please list the number of each reading you have chosen, on the form provided,
If you wish to have family members read, please indicate who is reading the Old Testament and the New Testament Reading. Father Ron will read the Gospel.
THE EULOGY:
(PLEASE REVIEW THE ATTACHED DOCUMENT BELOW THIS ONE FROM THE CANADIAN BISHOPS REGARDING A EULOGY AT A CATHOLIC FUNERAL)
A eulogy is not part of the Catholic funeral service as it may be with other Christian churches. The Canadian bishops suggest that if the family wishes to have someone speak about the deceased then the most appropriate times are at the Wake Service the night before or during a meal that is provided following the funeral. You are free to say what you wish if one of these is chosen. If the family insists that they wish one within the sacred space of the church there are certain requirements in order to accomplish this. It must contain a strong faith component of the deceased. How the deceased lived their faith, examples of faith in their lives etc. A copy of the eulogy must be emailed to the parish a minimum of 24 hours before the funeral at [email protected].
The eulogy which will be no longer than a few minutes will take place in the church ,read from the choir podium before Mass begins. This means that all of your family and guests will be seated in the body of the church and the casket will remain at the entrance of the church. During the reading of the eulogy, the family may stand around the casket at the back of the church until the eulogy is over and are there for the beginning prayers that start at the back of the church. Following the person giving the eulogy if the family is sitting in the front they may return to the entrance of the church to walk the casket to the front.
The eulogy which is given by a person chosen by the family is to be no more than a few minutes long it must have a faith context as this is being given in the sacred space of the church. The total eulogy must be approved in advance by the priest. The easiest way to accomplish this is to email the Parish the day before the funeral with the eulogy they will get back to you concerning its suitability. The email address is [email protected]. There is a separate document from the Canadian bishops which further explains the rationale of a eulogy within a Catholic church please feel free to read it as it is attached below.
THE VIGIL SERVICE:
If you wish prayers at the Vigil Service, the night before, please let us know right away, so that we can make arrangements to have one of our trained volunteers lead these prayers. It is held with family members at the family visitation time and before the public visitation takes place. It lasts no more than 10 minutes.
If you have any other questions or concerns, please don’t hesitate to email the parish at [email protected] or call at 705-253-9411. The office hours are Tuesday to Friday 9:00 AM to 12:00 Noon.
Thank you
- CANADIAN BISHOPS GUIDELINES FOR EULIGIES AT FUNERALS
Liturgical Leaflet edited by the National Liturgy Office and published by Publications Service, Canadian Conference of Catholic Bishops, 2500 Don Reid Drive, Ottawa, ON. KIN 2J2 Canada. CopyrigM 0 Concscan Inc., ALL rights reserved. This text may be reproduced for personal or parish use. For commercial licence, please contact the publisher.
CATHOLIC
FUNERALS
AND EULOGIES,
When a loved one dies, the grieving family and friends are anxious to honour the memory of the loved one in every way they can. One of the ways some wish to do this is to include a eulogy somewhere in the funeral rites.
Catholics are sometimes surprised to learn, as they prepare for the funeral liturgy, that a eulogy is not permitted and there is no provision for a eulogy by the family in the ritual. The General Introduction to the Order of Christian Funerals quite clearly states that the homily after the gospel reading is never to be a eulogy. On the other hand, the eulogy is often a significant feature in non-Catholic funerals and sometimes appreciated by those present.
Two things should be kept in mind as people prepare for a funeral liturgy and the question of a eulogy is considered. The first is what is meant by the word, eulogy. According to the dictionary, it is ma formal speech or a piece of writing of high praise of a person" (The Penguin Canadian DictionarA. The second is that the funeral liturgy is, as is all liturgy, an act of praise and thanksgiving for Christ's victory over sin and death, a proclamation of the paschal mystery. This act of worship belongs to the whole community, to the whole Church, and not to any individual or group. Any elements that do not give expression to this act of worship do not have a place.
Acknowledgement
of the Deceased
The fact that a eulogy is not permitted does not mean that there Is to be no reference to the deceased person during the homily. Those who
preach are directed to dwell on God's compassionate love and the paschal mystery as proclaimed in the Scripture readings. As well, they are directed to be attentive to the grief of those present and to help them understand the mystery of God's love and the paschal mystery in the life of the deceased person and in their own lives. References to the person's life of faith and love are obviously appropriate. It is the "high praise" of a eulogy in the strict sense of the word, praise which has no reference to Christian life and sometimes is exaggerated, that is out of place in an act of worship.
In situations where the homilist does not know the deceased person, it might be helpful for family members or friends to share stories about him or her with the one who will be preaching, with the one presiding If this is not the same person, or with a pastoral minister who represents the parish.
There are other instances in the funeral liturgy where reference is made to the person for whom the funeral is being celebrated, at the various invitations to prayer, for example. These invitations are not speeches about the person but are intended to call the community to keep the deceased person in mind and to pray for the needs of the family and the community in this particular circumstance.
Words of Remembrance
at the Vigil
The Order of Christian Funerals recognizes our need to reflect on the life of a loved one who has just died. It provides an opportunity for a family member or friend to speak at the (evening) vigil for the deceased — just before the concluding rite.
The vigil is an important part of the funeral liturgy and its first liturgical moment. During it, the community gathers to support the grieving family and proclaim publicly the Scriptures that express the Church's faith and hope in the resurrection of Jesus.
It is also a ritual that is less formal and more intimate than the main funeral liturgy, which is often a celebration of the Eucharist but can also be a celebration of a liturgy of the word. The vigil is more flexible and provides a greater variety of choices. The Order of Christian Funerals provides twelve versions of the service, with choices of Scripture readings within each one and the possibility of choosing elements from various vigil services to make the rite more personal.
Because of the vigil's more intimate nature, it is more appropriate to Include in it these words of remembrance that refer more directly to the deceased person, if the family so wishes. This too is not an eulogy in the strict sense of the word, that is, a formal speech of "high praise," but rather telling the story of the person. Those who prepare such words of remembrance will want to keep in mind that the vigil service is Christian liturgy, and the focus should be the Christian life of the person. They will want to also guard against making it unduly long.
Sometimes family members want to provide those who come to the funeral liturgy to share their grief with an account of the deceased person's life, with biographical details and a summary of his or her activities. The family might consider preparing a printed leaflet that can be handed out at the funeral or at any other appropriate time. Another opportunity for the family to share the story of the deceased person is at the reception which often follows the funeral liturgy. -
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- Scripture reading choices
Add your reading number to the list below.
You may copy, paste and print the readings that you have chosen so that if you have chosen readers they may practice them before the funeral. A copy of the readings chosen will be waiting at the Lecturn for your reader at the funeral
† OLD TESTAMENT READINGS †
789 (1) Job 19:23-27
A reading from the book of Job
Then Job answered,
"0 that my words were written down!
0 that they were inscribed in a book!
0 that with an iron pen and with lead
they were engraved on a rock forever!
For I know that my Redeemer lives,
and that at the last he will stand upon the earth; and after my skin has been thus destroyed, then in my flesh I shall see God, whom I shall see on my side,
and my eyes shall behold, and not another.
The Word of the Lord.
789 (2) Wis. 3:1-9
A reading from the book of Wisdom
The souls of the righteous are in the hands of God, and no torment will ever touch them. In the eyes of the foolish they seemed to have died, and their departure was thought to be a disaster, and their going from us to be their destruction; but they are at peace.
For though in the sight of others they were punished, their hope is full of immortality. Having been disciplined a little, they will receive great good,
because God tested them and found them worthy of himself; like gold in the furnace he tried them, and like a sacrificial burnt offering he accepted them. In the time of their visitation they will shine forth, and will run like sparks through the stubble they will govern nations and rule over peoples,
and the Lord will reign over them forever. Those who trust in him will understand truth,and the faithful will abide with him in love, because grace and mercy are upon his holy ones,
and he watches over his elect.
The Word of the Lord.
789 (3) Wis. 4:7-15
A reading from the book of Wisdom
The righteous, though they die early, will be at rest. For old age is not honoured for length of time,
or measured by number of years;
but understanding is grey hair for anyone, and a blameless life is ripe old age. There were some who pleased God and were loved by him, and while living among sinners were taken up.
They were caught up so that evil might not change their understanding or guile deceive their souls. For the fascination of wickedness obscures what is good, and roving desire perverts the innocent mind. Being perfected in a short time, they fulfilled long years; for their souls were pleasing to the Lord, therefore he took them quickly from the midst of wickedness. Yet the peoples saw and did not understand, or take such a thing to heart, that God's grace and mercy are with his elect, and that he watches over his holy ones.
The Word of the Lord.
789 (4) Is. 25:6-9
A reading from the book of the Prophet Isaiah.
On this mountain the Lord of hosts
will make for all peoples a feast of rich food, a feast of well-aged wines,
of rich food filled with marrow,
of well-aged wines strained clear.
And he will destroy on this mountain
the shroud that is cast over all peoples,
the sheet that is spread over all nations; he will swallow up death forever. Then the Lord God will wipe away the tears from all faces, and the disgrace of his people he will take away from all the earth, for the Lord has spoken. It will be said on that day,
Lo, this is our God; we have waited for him, so that he might save us. This is the Lord for whom we have waited;
let us be glad and rejoice in his salvation.
The Word of the Lord.
789 (5) Lam. 3:17-26
A reading from the book of Lamentations.
My soul is bereft of peace; I have forgotten what happiness is; so I say, "Gone is my glory, and all that I had hoped for from the Lord." The thought of my affliction and my homelessness is wormwood and gall! My soul continually thinks of it
and is bowed down within me. But this I call to mind, and therefore I have hope: The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases, his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning;
great is your faithfulness. "The Lord is my portion," says my soul, "therefore I will hope in him." The Lord is good to those who wait for him, to the soul that seeks him. It is good that one should wait quietly for the salvation of the Lord.
The Word of the Lord.
789 (6) Dan. 12:1-3
A reading from the book of Daniel
At that time Michael, the great prince,
the protector of your people, shall arise. There shall be a time of anguish,
such as has never occurred since nations first came into existence.
But at that time your people shall be delivered, everyone who is found written in the book. Many of those who sleep in the dust of the earth shall awake, some to everlasting life,
and some to shame and everlasting contempt. Those who are wise shall shine like the brightness of the sky,
and those who lead many to righteousness, like the stars forever and ever.
The Word of the Lord
789 (7) 2 Mac. 12:43-46
A reading from the second book of Maccabees.
The noble Judas Maccabeus took up a collection, man by man, to the amount of two thousand drachmas of silver, and sent it to Jerusalem to provide for a sin offering. In doing this he acted very well and honourably, taking account of the resurrection.
For if he were not expecting that those who had fallen asleep would rise again, it would have been superfluous and foolish to pray for the dead. But if he was looking to the splendid reward
that is laid up for those who fall asleep in godliness, it was a holy and pious thought. Therefore he made atonement for the dead, so that they might be delivered from their sin.
The Word of the Lord
789 (8) Ecclesiastes 3.1-11a
A reading from the book of Ecclesiastes
For everything there is a season,
and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born,
and a time to die;
a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted;
a time to kill, and a time to heal;
a time to breakdown, and a time to build up; a time to weep,
and a time to laugh;
a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
a time to throw away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
a time to seek, and a time to lose;
a time to keep, and a time throw away;
a time to tear, and a time to sew;
a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; a time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time for peace; What gain have the workers from their toil? I have seen the business that God has given to everyone to be busy with. He has made everything suitable for its time.
The Word of the Lord.
789 (9) Isaiah 61.1-3d
A reading from the book of the Prophet Isaiah.
The spirit of the LORD GOD is upon me, Because the Lord has anointed me; he has sent me to bring good news to the oppresses, to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and release to the prisoners; to proclaim the year of the LORD’s favour, and the day of vengeance of our God; to comfort all who mourn; to provide for those who mourn in Zion; to give them a garland instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, the mantle of praise instead of faint spirit.
The Word of the Lord.
789 (10) Isaiah 65.17-21
A reading from the book of the Prophet Isaiah
Thus says the LORD:
I am about to create new heavens and a new earth; the former things shall not be remembered or come to mind.
But be glad and rejoice forever
in what I am creating; for I am about to create Jerusalem as a joy, and its people as a delight. I will rejoice in Jerusalem, and delight in my people;
no more shall the sound of weeping be heard in it, or the cry of distress.
The Word of the Lord.
789 (11) Ezekiel 37.12-14
A reading from the book of the Prophet Ezekiel
“Therefore prophesy, and say to them,
Thus says the LORD GOD:
I am going to open your graves,
and bring you up from the graves, O my people; and I will bring you back to the land of Israel. And you shall know that I am the LORD, when I open your graves, and bring you up from the graves, O my people. I will put my spirit within you, and you shall live, and I will place you on your own soil; then you shall know that I, the LORD, have spoken and will act,” says the LORD.
The Word of the Lord
† NEW TESTAMENT READINGS †
790 (1) Acts 10:34-43
A reading from the Acts of the Apostles.
Then Peter began to speak to them:
"I truly understand that God shows no partiality, but in every nation anyone who fears him and does what is right
is acceptable to him. You know the message he sent to the people of Israel, preaching peace by Jesus Christ - he is Lord of all. That message spread throughout Judea, beginning in Galilee after the baptism that John announced: how God anointed Jesus of Nazareth with the Holy Spirit and with power; how he went about doing good and healing all who were oppressed by the devil, for God was with him. We are witnesses to all that he did both in Judea and in Jerusalem.
They put him to death by hanging him on a tree; but God raised him on the third day and allowed him to appear,
not to all the people but to us who were chosen by God as witnesses,
and who ate and drank with him after he rose from the dead. He commanded us to preach to the people and to testify that he is the one ordained by God as judge of the living and the dead. All the prophets testify about him that everyone who believes in him receives forgiveness of sins through his name."
The Word of the Lord
790 (2) Rom. 5:5-11
A reading from the letter of Paul to the Romans
Hope does not disappoint us,
because God's love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit that has been given to us. For a while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. Indeed, rarely will anyone die for a righteous person-- though perhaps for a good person someone might actually dare to die. But God proves his love for us
in that while we still were sinners Christ died for us. Much more surely then, now that we have been justified by his blood, will we be saved through him from the wrath of God. For if while we were enemies, we were reconciled to God through the death of his Son,
much more surely, having been reconciled, will we be saved by his life.
But more than that, we even boast in God through our Lord Jesus Christ,
through whom we have now received reconciliation.
The Word of the Lord
790 (3) Rom. 5:12,17-21
A reading from the letter of Paul to the Romans
If, because of the one man's trespass,
death exercised dominion through that one, much more surely will those who receive the abundance of grace and the free gift of righteousness
exercise dominion in life through the one man, Jesus Christ. Therefore just as one man's trespass led to condemnation for all, so one man's act of righteousness leads to justification and life for all. For just as by the one man's disobedience the many were made sinners, so by the one man's obedience the many will be made righteous. But law came in, with the result that the trespass multiplied;
but where sin increased, grace abounded all the more, so that, just as sin exercised dominion in death, so grace might also exercise dominion through justification leading to eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.
The Word of the Lord
790 (4) Rom. 5:5-11
A reading from the letter of Paul to the Romans
Do you not know that all of us who have been baptized into Christ Jesus
were baptized into his death?
Therefore we have been buried with him by baptism into death, so that, just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, so we too might walk in newness of life. For if we have been united with him in a death like his, we will certainly be united with him in a resurrection like his. We know that our old self was crucified with him
so that the body of sin might be destroyed, and we might no longer be enslaved to sin. For whoever has died is freed from sin. But if we have died with Christ, we believe that we will also live with him. We know that Christ, being raised from the dead, will never die again; death no longer has dominion over him.
The Word of the Lord
790 (5) Rom. 8:14-23
A reading from the letter of Paul to the Romans
All who are led by the Spirit of God are children of God. For you did not receive a spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but you have received a spirit of adoption. When we cry, "Abba! Father!" it is that very Spirit bearing witness with our spirit that we are children of God, and if children, then heirs, heirs of God and joint heirs with Christ-- if, in fact, we suffer with him so that we may also be glorified with him.
I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory about to be revealed to us. For the creation waits with eager longing for the revealing of the children of God; for the creation was subjected to futility, not of its own will but by the will of the one who subjected it, in hope that the creation itself will be set free from its bondage to decay and will obtain the freedom of the glory of the children of God.
We know that the whole creation
has been groaning in labour pains until now; and not only the creation, but we ourselves, who have the first fruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly while we wait for adoption, the redemption of our bodies.
The Word of the Lord
790 (6) Rom. 8: 31b-35, 37-39
A reading from the letter of Paul to the Romans
If God is for us, who is against us?
He who did not withhold his own Son, but gave him up for all of us, will he not with him also give us everything else? Who will bring any charge against God's elect? It is God who justifies. Who is to condemn?
It is Christ Jesus, who died, yes,
who was raised, who is at the right hand of God, who indeed intercedes for us. Who will separate us from the love of Christ? Will hardship, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?
No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor rulers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation,
will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.
The Word of the Lord
790 (7) Rom. 14:7-9, 10b-12
A reading from the letter of Paul to the Romans
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We do not live to ourselves, and we do not die to ourselves. If we live, we live to the Lord, and if we die, we die to the Lord; so then, whether we live or whether we die, we are the Lord's.
For to this end Christ died and lived again, so that he might be Lord of both the dead and the living. Why do you pass judgment on your brother or sister? Or you, why do you despise your brother or sister? For we will all stand before the judgment seat of God. For it is written, "As I live, says the Lord, every knee shall bow to me,
and every tongue shall give praise to God." So then, each of us will be accountable to God.
The Word of the Lord
790 (8) 1 Cor. 15:20-28
A reading from the first letter of Paul to the Corinthians
Christ has been raised from the dead, the first fruits of those who have died.
For since death came through a human being, the resurrection of the dead has also come through a human being; for as all die in Adam, so all will be made alive in Christ. But each in his own order: Christ the first fruits, then at his coming those who belong to Christ.
Then comes the end, when he hands over the kingdom to God the Father,
after he has destroyed every ruler and every authority and power. For he must reign until he has put all his enemies under his feet. The last enemy to be destroyed is death.
For "God has put all things in subjection under his feet." But when it says, "All things are put in subjection,"
it is plain that this does not include the one who put all things in subjection under him. When all things are subjected to him, then the Son himself will also be subjected to the one
who put all things in subjection under him, so that God may be all in all.
The Word of the Lord
790 (9) 1 Cor. 15: 51-57
A reading from the first letter of Paul to the Corinthians
Listen, I will tell you a mystery!
We will not all die, but we will all be changed, in a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trumpet.
For the trumpet will sound,
and the dead will be raised imperishable, and we will be changed.
For this perishable body must put on imperishability, and this mortal body must put on immortality.
When this perishable body puts on imperishability, and this mortal body puts on immortality, then the saying that is written will be fulfilled:
"Death has been swallowed up in victory.""Where, 0 death, is your victory? Where, 0 death, is your sting?"
The sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the law. But thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.
The Word of the Lord
790 (10) a 2 Cor. 5:1, 6-10
A reading from the second letter of Paul to the Corinthians
We know that the one who raised the Lord Jesus will raise us also with Jesus, and will bring us with you into his presence. Yes, everything is for your sake, so that grace, as it extends to more and more people, may increase thanksgiving, to the glory of God. So we do not lose heart. Even though our outer nature is wasting away, our inner nature is being renewed day by day. For this slight momentary affliction is preparing us
for an eternal weight of glory beyond all measure, because we look not at what can be seen but at what cannot be seen; for what can be seen is temporary, but what cannot be seen is eternal. For we know that if the earthly tent we live in is destroyed, we have a building from God, a house not made with hands, eternal in the heavens.
The Word of the Lord
790 (10) b 2 Cor. 5:1, 6-10
A reading from the second letter of Paul to the Corinthians
We know that if the earthly tent we live in is destroyed, we have a building from God, a house not made with hands, eternal in the heavens. So we are always confident; even though we know that while we are at home in the body we are away from the Lord
-- we walk by faith, not by sight.
Yes, we do have confidence, and we would rather be away from the body and at home with the Lord.
So whether we are at home or away,
we make it our aim to please him.
For all of us must appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each may receive recompense for what has been done in the body,
whether good or evil.
The Word of the Lord
790 (11) Phil 3: 2-21
A reading from the letter of Paul to the Philippians
Our citizenship is in heaven,
and it is from there that we are expecting a Saviour, the Lord Jesus Christ. He will transform the body of our humiliation that it may be conformed to the body of his glory,
by the power that also enables him to make all things subject to himself.
The Word of the Lord
790 (12) 1 Thess. 4:13-14, 17b-18
A reading from the letter of Paul to the Thessalonians.
But we do not want you to be uninformed, brothers and sisters,
about those who have died, so that you may not grieve as others do who have no hope. For since we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so, through Jesus, God will bring with him those who have died. For this we declare to you by the word of the Lord,
that we who are alive, who are left until the coming of the Lord, will by no means precede those who have died.
For the Lord himself, with a cry of command, with the archangel's call and with the sound of God's trumpet,
will descend from heaven, and the dead in Christ will rise first. Then we who are alive, who are left, will be caught up in the clouds together with them to meet the Lord in the air; and so we will be with the Lord forever.
Therefore encourage one another with these words.
The Word of the Lord
790 (13) 2 Tim. 2:8-13
A reading from the second letter of Paul to Timothy
Remember Jesus Christ, raised from the dead, a descendant of David
-- that is my gospel, for which I suffer hardship, even to the point of being chained like a criminal. But the word of God is not chained. Therefore I endure everything for the sake of the elect,
so that they may also obtain the salvation that is in Christ Jesus, with eternal glory. The saying is sure:
If we have died with him, we will also live with him; if we endure, we will also reign with him; if we deny him, he will also deny us; if we are faithless, he remains faithful - for he cannot deny himself.
The Word of the Lord
790 (14) 1 John 3:1-2
A reading from the first letter of John
See what love the Father has given us,
that we should be called children of God; and that is what we are.
The reason the world does not know us is that it did not know him. Beloved, we are God's children now; what we will be has not yet been revealed.
What we do know is this: when he is revealed, we will be like him, for we will see him as he is.
The Word of the Lord
790 (15) 1 John 3:14-16
A reading from the first letter of John
We know that we have passed from death to life because we love one another. Whoever does not love abides in death. All who hate a brother or sister are murderers, and you know that murderers do not have eternal life abiding in them. We know love by this, that he laid down his life for us
-- and we ought to lay down our lives for one another.
The Word of the Lord
790 (16) Rev. 14:13
A reading from the book of Revelation
I heard a voice from heaven saying,
"Write this: Blessed are the dead who from now on die in the Lord." "Yes," says the Spirit, "they will rest from their labours, for their deeds follow them."
The Word of the Lord
790 (17) Rev. 20:11-21:1
A reading from the book of Revelation
I saw a great white throne and the one who sat on it; the earth and the heaven fled from his presence, and no place was found for them. And I saw the dead, great and small, standing before the throne, and books were opened.
Also another book was opened, the book of life. And the dead were judged according to their works, as recorded in the books. And the sea gave up the dead that were in it,
Death and Hades gave up the dead that were in them, and all were judged according to what they had done.
Then Death and Hades were thrown into the lake of fire. This is the second death, the lake of fire; and anyone whose name was not found written in the book of life was thrown into the lake of fire. Then I saw a new heaven and a new earth; for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away,
and the sea was no more.
The Word of the Lord
790 (18) Rev. 21:1-5a, 6b-7
A reading from the book of Revelation
Then I saw a new heaven and a new earth; for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away, and the sea was no more. And I saw the holy city, the new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband.
And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, "See, the home of God is among mortals.He will dwell with them; they will be his peoples,
and God himself will be with them;
he will wipe every tear from their eyes.
Death will be no more; mourning and crying and pain will be no more,
for the first things have passed away."
And the one who was seated on the throne said, "See, I am making all things new. I am the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end.
To the thirsty I will give water as a gift from the spring of the water of life.
Those who conquer will inherit these things, and I will be their God and they will be my children."
The Word of the Lord
790 (19) 1 Corinthians 15.12, 16-20
A reading from the first Letter of Saint Paul to the Corinthians.
If Christ is proclaimed as raised from the dead, how can some of you say there is no resurrection of the dead?
For if the dead are not raised. then Christ has not been raised.
If Christ has not been raised, your faith is futile and you are still in your sins.
Then those also who have died in Christ have perished. If for this life only we have hoped in Christ, we are of all people most to be pitied. But in fact Christ has been raised from the dead,
the first fruits of those who have fallen asleep.
The word of the Lord.
790 (20) 2 Timothy 4.6-8
A reading from the second Letter of Saint Paul to Timothy.
Beloved:
I am already being poured out as a libation, and the time of my departure has come. I have fought the good fight,
I have finished the race,
I have kept the faith.
From now on there is reserved for me the crown of righteousness,
which the Lord, the righteous judge,
will give me on that day, and not only to me but also to all who have longed for his appearing.
The word of the Lord.
790 (21) 1 Peter 1.3-7
A reading from the first Letter of Saint Peter.
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! By his great mercy he has given us a new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead: a birth into an inheritance that is imperishable, undefiled, and unfading, kept in heaven for you, who are being protected by the power of God through faith for a salvation ready to be revealed in the last time.
In this you rejoice, even if now for a little while you have had to suffer various trials, so that the genuineness of your faith -being more precious than gold that, though perishable, is tested by fire- may be found to result in praise and glory and honour
when Jesus Christ is revealed.
The word of the Lord.
790(22) Revelation 7.9, 14b-17
A reading from the book of Revelation.
After this I, John, looked, and there was a great multitude that no one could count, from every nation, from all tribes and peoples and languages, standing before the throne and before the Lamb, robed in white, with palm branches in their hands. And one of the elders then said to me, “These are they who have come out of the great ordeal; they have washed their robes
and made them white in the blood of the Lamb. For this reason they are before the throne of God, and worship him day and night within his temple,
and the one who is seated on the throne will shelter them. They will hunger no more, and thirst no more;
the sun will not strike them, nor any scorching heat; for the Lamb at the centre of the throne will be their shepherd, and he will guide them to springs of the water of life, and God will wipe away every tear from their eyes.”
The word of the Lord.
† THE GOSPELS †
793 (1) Matthew 5:1-12a
A reading from the holy gospel according to Matthew.
Jesus went up the mountain; and after he sat down, his disciples came to him.
Then he began to speak, and taught them, saying:
"Blessed are the poor in spirit,
for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
"Blessed are those who mourn,
for they will be comforted.
"Blessed are the meek,
for they will inherit the earth.
"Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness,
for they will be filled.
"Blessed are the merciful,
for they will receive mercy.
"Blessed are the pure in heart,
for they will see God.
"Blessed are the peacemakers,
for they will be called children of God.
"Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness' sake,
for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
"Blessed are you when people revile you and persecute you
and utter all kinds of evil against you falsely on my account.
Rejoice and be glad, for your reward is great in heaven.
The Gospel of the Lord.
793 (2) Matthew 11:25-30
A reading from the holy gospel according to Matthew.
At that time Jesus said,
"I thank you, Father, Lord of heaven and earth, because you have hidden these things from the wise and the intelligent and have revealed them to infants; yes, Father, for such was your gracious will. All things have been handed over to me by my Father;
and no one knows the Son except the Father, and no one knows the Father except the Son and anyone to whom the Son chooses to reveal him. "Come to me, all you that are weary and are carrying heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light."
The Gospel of the Lord.
793 (3) Matthew 25:1-13
A reading from the holy gospel according to Matthew.
"The kingdom of heaven will be like this. Ten bridesmaids took their lamps and went to meet the bridegroom. Five of them were foolish, and five were wise. When the foolish took their lamps, they took no oil with them; but the wise took flasks of oil with their lamps. As the bridegroom was delayed, all of them became drowsy and slept. But at midnight there was a shout, 'Look! Here is the bridegroom! Come out to meet him.' Then all those bridesmaids got up and trimmed their lamps. The foolish said to the wise, "Give us some of your oil, for our lamps are going out.' But the wise replied, "No! there will not be enough for you and for us; you had better go to the dealers and buy some for yourselves.'
And while they went to buy it, the bridegroom came, and those who were ready went with him into the wedding banquet; and the door was shut. Later the other bridesmaids came also, saying, "Lord, lord, open to us.' But he replied, "Truly I tell you, I do not know you.' Keep awake therefore, for you know neither the day nor the hour.
The Gospel of the Lord.
793 (4) Matthew 25:31-46
A reading from the holy gospel according to Matthew. When the Son of Man comes in his glory, and all the angels with him, then he will sit on the throne of his glory. All the nations will be gathered before him, and he will separate people one from another
as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats, and he will put the sheep at his right hand and the goats at the left. Then the king will say to those at his right hand,
"Come, you that are blessed by my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world; for I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink,
I was a stranger and you welcomed me, I was naked and you gave me clothing, I was sick and you took care of me, I was in prison and you visited me.' Then the righteous will answer him, "Lord, when was it that we saw you hungry and gave you food,
or thirsty and gave you something to drink? And when was it that we saw you a stranger and welcomed you,
or naked and gave you clothing?
And when was it that we saw you sick or in prison and visited you?'
And the king will answer them,
"Truly I tell you,
just as you did it to one of the least of these who are members of my family,
you did it to me.' Then he will say to those at his left hand, "You that are accursed, depart from me into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels; for I was hungry and you gave me no food, I was thirsty and you gave me nothing to drink, I was a stranger and you did not welcome me,
naked and you did not give me clothing, sick and in prison and you did not visit me.' Then they also will answer, "Lord, when was it that we saw you hungry or thirsty or a stranger
or naked or sick or in prison, and did not take care of you?'
Then he will answer them,
"Truly I tell you, just as you did not do it to one of the least of these,
you did not do it to me.' And these will go away into eternal punishment,
but the righteous into eternal life."
The Gospel of the Lord.
793 (4a) Matthew 15:33-39;16:1-6
A reading from the holy gospel according to Mark.
When it was noon, darkness came over the whole land until three in the afternoon. At three o'clock Jesus cried out with a loud voice, Eloi, Eloi, lema sabachthani?" which means, "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?"
When some of the bystanders heard it, they said, "Listen, he is calling for Elijah." And someone ran, filled a sponge with sour wine, put it on a stick, and gave it to him to drink,
saying, "Wait, let us see whether Elijah will come to take him down."
Then Jesus gave a loud cry and breathed his last. And the curtain of the temple was torn in two, from top to bottom. Now when the centurion, who stood facing him, saw that in this way he breathed his last, he said, "Truly this man was God's Son!" When the sabbath was over, Mary Magdalene,
and Mary the mother of James, and Salome bought spices, so that they might go and anoint him. And very early on the first day of the week,
when the sun had risen, they went to the tomb. They had been saying to one another, "Who will roll away the stone for us from the entrance to the tomb?" When they looked up, they saw that the stone, which was very large,
had already been rolled back.
As they entered the tomb, they saw a young man, dressed in a white robe, sitting on the right side; and they were alarmed. But he said to them, "Do not be alarmed; you are looking for Jesus of Nazareth, who was crucified.
He has been raised; he is not here.
Look, there is the place they laid him."
The Gospel of the Lord
793 (5) Luke 7:11-17
A reading from the holy gospel according to Luke.
Jesus went to a town called Nain,
and his disciples and a large crowd went with him. As he approached the gate of the town, a man who had died was being carried out. He was his mother's only son, and she was a widow; and with her was a large crowd from the town. When the Lord saw her,
he had compassion for her and said to her, "Do not weep." Then he came forward and touched the bier,
and the bearers stood still.
And he said, "Young man, I say to you, rise!" The dead man sat up and began to speak, and Jesus gave him to his mother. Fear seized all of them;
and they glorified God, saying,
"A great prophet has risen among us!"
and "God has looked favourably on his people!" This word about him spread throughout Judea and all the surrounding country.
The Gospel of the Lord
793 (6) Luke 7:11-17
A reading from the holy gospel according to Luke.
Be dressed for action and have your lamps lit; be like those who are waiting for their master to return from the wedding banquet, so that they may open the door for him as soon as he comes and knocks. Blessed are those slaves whom the master finds alert when he comes; truly I tell you, he will fasten his belt and have them sit down to eat, and he will come and serve them. If he comes during the middle of the night, or near dawn, and finds them so, blessed are those slaves.
"But know this:
if the owner of the house had known at what hour the thief was coming, he would not have let his house be broken into. You also must be ready,
for the Son of Man is coming at an unexpected hour."
The Gospel of the Lord
793 (7) Luke 23:33, 39-43
A reading from the holy gospel according to Luke.
When they came to the place that is called The Skull, they crucified Jesus there with the criminals, one on his right and one on his left.
One of the criminals who were hanged there kept deriding him and saying,
"Are you not the Messiah? Save yourself and us!" But the other rebuked him, saying, "Do you not fear God,
since you are under the same sentence of condemnation? And we indeed have been condemned justly,
for we are getting what we deserve for our deeds, but this man has done nothing wrong." Then he said, "Jesus, remember me when you come into your kingdom." He replied, "Truly I tell you, today you will be with me in Paradise."
The Gospel of the Lord.
793 (8)
Luke 23:44-46, 50, 52-53; 24:1-5
A reading from the holy gospel according to Luke.
It was now about noon, and darkness came over the whole land until three in the afternoon, while the sun's light failed; and the curtain of the temple was torn in two. Now there was a good and righteous man named Joseph.
This man went to Pilate and asked for the body of Jesus. Then he took it down, wrapped it in a linen cloth,
and laid it in a rock-hewn tomb where no one had ever been laid.
On the first day of the week, at early dawn, the women came to the tomb, taking the spices that they had prepared. found the stone rolled away from the tomb, but when they went in, they did not find the body. While they were perplexed about this, suddenly two men in dazzling clothes stood beside them. The women were terrified and bowed their faces to the ground, but the men said to them,
"Why do you look for the living among the dead? He is not here, but has risen.
The Gospel of the Lord
793 (9) Luke 24:13-35
A reading from the holy gospel according to Luke.
Now on that same day two of them were going to a village called Emmaus, about seven miles from Jerusalem, and talking with each other about all these things that had happened. While they were talking and discussing, Jesus himself came near and went with them, but their eyes were kept from recognizing him.
And he said to them, "What are you discussing with each other while you walk along?" They stood still, looking sad. Then one of them, whose name was Cleopas, answered him,
"Are you the only stranger in Jerusalem who does not know the things that have taken place there in these days?" He asked them, "What things?" They replied, "The things about Jesus of Nazareth, who was a prophet mighty in deed and word before God and all the people, and how our chief priests and leaders
handed him over to be condemned to death and crucified him. But we had hoped that he was the one to redeem Israel. Yes, and besides all this, it is now the third day since these things took place. Moreover, some women of our group astounded us. They were at the tomb early this morning, and when they did not find his body there,
they came back and told us that they had indeed seen a vision of angels
who said that he was alive. Some of those who were with us went to the tomb and found it just as the women had said; but they did not see him."
Then he said to them, "Oh, how foolish you are, and how slow of heart to believe all that the prophets have declared! Was it not necessary that the Messiah should suffer these things and then enter into his glory?"
Then beginning with Moses and all the prophets, he interpreted to them the things about himself in all the scriptures. As they came near the village to which they were going,
he walked ahead as if he were going on. But they urged him strongly, saying, "Stay with us, because it is almost evening and the day is now nearly over." So he went in to stay with them. When he was at the table with them, he took bread, blessed and broke it, and gave it to them.
Then their eyes were opened, and they recognized him; and he vanished from their sight. They said to each other, "Were not our hearts burning within us while he was talking to us on the road, while he was opening the scriptures to us?" That same hour they got up and returned to Jerusalem;
and they found the eleven and their companions gathered together.
They were saying, "The Lord has risen indeed, and he has appeared to Simon!" Then they told what had happened on the road, and how he had been made known to them in the breaking of the bread.
The Gospel of the Lord
793 (10) John 5:24-29
A reading from the holy gospel according to John.
Very truly, I tell you, anyone who hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life, and does not come under judgment, but has passed from death to life. "Very truly, I tell you, the hour is coming, and is now here,
when the dead will hear the voice of the Son of God, and those who hear will live. For just as the Father has life in himself, so he has granted the Son also to have life in himself; and he has given him authority to execute judgment, because he is the Son of Man. Do not be astonished at this;
for the hour is coming when all who are in their graves will hear his voice
and will come out--those who have done good, to the resurrection of life,
and those who have done evil, to the resurrection of condemnation.
The Gospel of the Lord
793 (11) John 6:37-40
A reading from the holy gospel according to John.
A reading from the holy gospel according to John. Everything that the Father gives me will come to me,
and anyone who comes to me I will never drive away; for I have come down from heaven, not to do my own will, but the will of him who sent me.
And this is the will of him who sent me,
that I should lose nothing of all that he has given me, but raise it up on the last day. This is indeed the will of my Father, that all who see the Son and believe in him may have eternal life;
and I will raise them up on the last day."
The Gospel of the Lord
793 (12) John 6:51-59
A reading from the holy gospel according to John.
I am the living bread that came down from heaven. Whoever eats of this bread will live forever; and the bread that I will give for the life of the world is my flesh." The Jews then disputed among themselves, saying,
"How can this man give us his flesh to eat?" So Jesus said to them,
"Very truly, I tell you,
unless you eat the flesh of the Son of Man and drink his blood,
you have no life in you.
Those who eat my flesh and drink my blood have eternal life, and I will raise them up on the last day; for my flesh is true food and my blood is true drink.
Those who eat my flesh and drink my blood abide in me, and I in them.
Just as the living Father sent me, and I live because of the Father, so whoever eats me will live because of me.
This is the bread that came down from heaven, not like that which your ancestors ate, and they died.
But the one who eats this bread will live forever." He said these things while he was teaching in the synagogue at Capernaum.
The Gospel of the Lord
793 (13) John 11:17-27
A reading from the holy gospel according to John.
When Jesus arrived, he found that Lazarus had already been in the tomb four days. Now Bethany was near Jerusalem, some two miles away,
and many of the Jews had come to Martha and Maryto console them about their brother. When Martha heard that Jesus was coming,
she went and met him, while Mary stayed at home.
Martha said to Jesus,"Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died. But even now I know that God will give you whatever you ask of him."
Jesus said to her, "Your brother will rise again." Martha said to him,
"I know that he will rise again in the resurrection on the last day."
Jesus said to her, "I am the resurrection and the life.
Those who believe in me, even though they die, will live, and everyone who lives and believes in me will never die.
Do you believe this?" She said to him,
"Yes, Lord, I believe that you are the Messiah, the Son of God,
the one coming into the world."
The Gospel of the Lord
793 (14)
John 11:32-45
A reading from the holy gospel according to John.
When Mary, the sister of Lazarus, came where Jesus was and saw him,
she knelt at his feet and said to him,
"Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died." When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who came with her also weeping, he was greatly disturbed in spirit and deeply moved.
He said, "Where have you laid him?"
They said to him, "Lord, come and see."
Jesus began to weep. So the Jews said, "See how he loved him!"
But some of them said, "Could not he who opened the eyes of the blind man
have kept this man from dying?"
Then Jesus, again greatly disturbed, came to the tomb. It was a cave, and a stone was lying against it. Jesus said, "Take away the stone." Martha, the sister of the dead man, said to him,
"Lord, already there is a stench because he has been dead four days."
Jesus said to her, "Did I not tell you that if you believed, you would see the glory of God?" So they took away the stone. And Jesus looked upward and said, "Father, I thank you for having heard me. I knew that you always hear me, but I have said this for the sake of the crowd standing here, so that they may believe that you sent me."
When he had said this, he cried with a loud voice, "Lazarus, come out!"
The dead man came out, his hands and feet bound with strips of cloth,
and his face wrapped in a cloth.
Jesus said to them, "Unbind him, and let him go." Many of the Jews therefore, who had come with Mary and had seen what Jesus did, believed in him.
The Gospel of the Lord
793 (15) John 12:23-28
A reading from the holy gospel according to John.
Jesus answered Andrew and Philip,
"The hour has come for the Son of Man to be glorified. Very truly, I tell you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains just a single grain; but if it dies, it bears much fruit. Those who love their life lose it,
and those who hate their life in this world will keep it for eternal life.
Whoever serves me must follow me,
and where I am, there will my servant be also. Whoever serves me, the Father will honour.
"Now my soul is troubled.
And what should I say -- "Father, save me from this hour'?
No, it is for this reason that I have come to this hour.
Father, glorify your name."
Then a voice came from heaven,
"I have glorified it, and I will glorify it again."
The Gospel of the Lord
793 (16) John 14:1-6
A reading from the holy gospel according to John.
Jesus said to his disciples,
"Do not let your hearts be troubled.
Believe in God, believe also in me.
In my Father's house there are many dwelling places. If it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you?
And if I go and prepare a place for you,
I will come again and will take you to myself,so that where I am, there you may be also. And you know the way to the place where I am going."
Thomas said to him, "Lord, we do not know where you are going.
How can we know the way?"
Jesus said to him, "I am the way, and the truth, and the life.
No one comes to the Father except through me.
The Gospel of the Lord
793 (17) John 14:24-26
A reading from the holy gospel according to John.
Jesus prayed in the following words:
Father, I desire that those also, whom you have given me, may be with me where I am, to see my glory, which you have given me because you loved me
before the foundation of the world.
"Righteous Father, the world does not know you, but I know you; and these know that you have sent me.
I made your name known to them, and I will make it known, so that the love with which you have loved me may be in them, and I in them."
The Gospel of the Lord
793 (18) John 19:17-18, 25-30
A reading from the holy gospel according to John.
Carrying the cross by himself,
Jesus went out to what is called The Place of the Skull, which in Hebrew is called Golgotha. There they crucified him, and with him two others, one on either side, with Jesus between them.
Meanwhile, standing near the cross of Jesus were his mother, and his mother's sister, Mary the wife of Clopas, and Mary Magdalene.
When Jesus saw his mother
and the disciple whom he loved standing beside her, he said to his mother, "Woman, here is your son."
Then he said to the disciple, "Here is your mother." And from that hour the disciple took her into his own home.
After this, when Jesus knew that all was now finished, he said (in order to fulfill the scripture),
"I am thirsty."
Ajar full of sour wine was standing there. So they put a sponge full of the wine on a branch of hyssop
and held it to his mouth.
The Gospel of the Lord
ST. VERONICA'S PARISH WOULD LIKE TO EXTEND OUR SINCERE CONDOLENCES FOR THE LOSS OF YOUR LOVED ONE. BE ASSURED OF OUR PRAYERS.- PLANNING THE LITURGY FOR YOUR LOVED ONE
BELOW IS AN EXPLANATION OF HOW TO CHOOSE READINGS AND MUSIC FOR THE FUNERAL MASS. PLEASE MAKE ALL OF YOUR CHOICES FOR READINGS AND MUSIC ON THE ATTACHED FORM AND PRESS THE SUBMIT BUTTON AT THE BOTTOM OF THIS PAGE.
The funeral liturgy at the funeral home has a different structure please contact the priest for clarification.
THE READINGS FROM SCRIPTURE:
If you wish, you can choose the Scripture readings for the Mass, and also choose someone to read them; or Father Ron will choose the Readings, and arrange for a reader. These are found below this letter.
You choose:
1 Reading from the Old Testament. These have the number ‘789’ on the document.
1 Reading from the New Testament. These have the number ‘790’ on the document.
You may wish to only have one reading either from the old or the New Testament and that is sufficient. Just mark it on the document
.
For the Gospel, these are on the document with the number ‘793’.
Please list the number of each reading you have chosen, on the form provided,
If you wish to have family members read, please indicate who is reading the Old Testament and the New Testament Reading. Father Ron will read the Gospel.
MUSIC:
Our parish musicians alternate in supplying the musical needs for our funerals in the church. There are songs listed on the document for each part of the Mass. Please choose the 4 that you would like to have sung, and write them on the form. If there is a song that you would like to have sung that is not on the list, you are free to request it but we cannot guarantee that the organist and soloists will be able to sing it.
THE EULOGY:
(PLEASE REVIEW THE ATTACHED DOCUMENT BELOW THIS ONE FROM THE CANADIAN BISHOPS REGARDING A EULOGY AT A CATHOLIC FUNERAL)
A eulogy is not part of the Catholic funeral service as it may be with other Christian churches. The Canadian bishops suggest that if the family wishes to have someone speak about the deceased then the most appropriate times are at the Wake Service the night before or during a meal that is provided following the funeral. You are free to say what you wish if one of these is chosen. If the family insists that they wish one within the sacred space of the church there are certain requirements in order to accomplish this. It must contain a strong faith component of the deceased. How the deceased lived their faith, examples of faith in their lives etc. A copy of the eulogy must be emailed to the parish a minimum of 24 hours before the funeral at [email protected].
The eulogy which will be no longer than a few minutes will take place in the church ,read from the choir podium before Mass begins. This means that all of your family and guests will be seated in the body of the church and the casket will remain at the entrance of the church. During the reading of the eulogy, the family may stand around the casket at the back of the church until the eulogy is over and are there for the beginning prayers that start at the back of the church. Following the person giving the eulogy if the family is sitting in the front they may return to the entrance of the church to walk the casket to the front.
The eulogy which is given by a person chosen by the family is to be no more than a few minutes long it must have a faith context as this is being given in the sacred space of the church. The total eulogy must be approved in advance by the priest. The easiest way to accomplish this is to email the Parish the day before the funeral with the eulogy they will get back to you concerning its suitability. The email address is [email protected]. There is a separate document from the Canadian bishops which further explains the rationale of a eulogy within a Catholic church please feel free to read it as it is attached below.
THE VIGIL SERVICE:
If you wish prayers at the Vigil Service, the night before, please let us know right away, so that we can make arrangements to have one of our trained volunteers lead these prayers. It is held with family members at the family visitation time and before the public visitation takes place. It lasts no more than 10 minutes.
If you have any other questions or concerns, please don’t hesitate to email the parish at [email protected] or call at 705-253-9411. The office hours are Tuesday to Friday 9:00 AM to 12:00 Noon.
Thank you
- CANADIAN BISHOPS GUIDELINES FOR EULIGIES AT FUNERALS
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CATHOLIC
FUNERALS
AND EULOGIES,
When a loved one dies, the grieving family and friends are anxious to honour the memory of the loved one in every way they can. One of the ways some wish to do this is to include a eulogy somewhere in the funeral rites.
Catholics are sometimes surprised to learn, as they prepare for the funeral liturgy, that a eulogy is not permitted and there is no provision for a eulogy by the family in the ritual. The General Introduction to the Order of Christian Funerals quite clearly states that the homily after the gospel reading is never to be a eulogy. On the other hand, the eulogy is often a significant feature in non-Catholic funerals and sometimes appreciated by those present.
Two things should be kept in mind as people prepare for a funeral liturgy and the question of a eulogy is considered. The first is what is meant by the word, eulogy. According to the dictionary, it is ma formal speech or a piece of writing of high praise of a person" (The Penguin Canadian DictionarA. The second is that the funeral liturgy is, as is all liturgy, an act of praise and thanksgiving for Christ's victory over sin and death, a proclamation of the paschal mystery. This act of worship belongs to the whole community, to the whole Church, and not to any individual or group. Any elements that do not give expression to this act of worship do not have a place.
Acknowledgement
of the Deceased
The fact that a eulogy is not permitted does not mean that there Is to be no reference to the deceased person during the homily. Those who
preach are directed to dwell on God's compassionate love and the paschal mystery as proclaimed in the Scripture readings. As well, they are directed to be attentive to the grief of those present and to help them understand the mystery of God's love and the paschal mystery in the life of the deceased person and in their own lives. References to the person's life of faith and love are obviously appropriate. It is the "high praise" of a eulogy in the strict sense of the word, praise which has no reference to Christian life and sometimes is exaggerated, that is out of place in an act of worship.
In situations where the homilist does not know the deceased person, it might be helpful for family members or friends to share stories about him or her with the one who will be preaching, with the one presiding If this is not the same person, or with a pastoral minister who represents the parish.
There are other instances in the funeral liturgy where reference is made to the person for whom the funeral is being celebrated, at the various invitations to prayer, for example. These invitations are not speeches about the person but are intended to call the community to keep the deceased person in mind and to pray for the needs of the family and the community in this particular circumstance.
Words of Remembrance
at the Vigil
The Order of Christian Funerals recognizes our need to reflect on the life of a loved one who has just died. It provides an opportunity for a family member or friend to speak at the (evening) vigil for the deceased — just before the concluding rite.
The vigil is an important part of the funeral liturgy and its first liturgical moment. During it, the community gathers to support the grieving family and proclaim publicly the Scriptures that express the Church's faith and hope in the resurrection of Jesus.
It is also a ritual that is less formal and more intimate than the main funeral liturgy, which is often a celebration of the Eucharist but can also be a celebration of a liturgy of the word. The vigil is more flexible and provides a greater variety of choices. The Order of Christian Funerals provides twelve versions of the service, with choices of Scripture readings within each one and the possibility of choosing elements from various vigil services to make the rite more personal.
Because of the vigil's more intimate nature, it is more appropriate to Include in it these words of remembrance that refer more directly to the deceased person, if the family so wishes. This too is not an eulogy in the strict sense of the word, that is, a formal speech of "high praise," but rather telling the story of the person. Those who prepare such words of remembrance will want to keep in mind that the vigil service is Christian liturgy, and the focus should be the Christian life of the person. They will want to also guard against making it unduly long.
Sometimes family members want to provide those who come to the funeral liturgy to share their grief with an account of the deceased person's life, with biographical details and a summary of his or her activities. The family might consider preparing a printed leaflet that can be handed out at the funeral or at any other appropriate time. Another opportunity for the family to share the story of the deceased person is at the reception which often follows the funeral liturgy.St. Veronica's Church